So if you ask me this. “Why write a blog?” My knee jerk is…
…“Because it shows love to my husband. We like to try new things. This is our newest thing.”
But if you catch me in a particularly deep thinking moment, I write because I believe I have a voice. And I need to use it well. As there truly is power of your words.
My mom’s influence and her voice lives on in me. When I tell my kids “You can build each other up or tear each other down,” the timber of her intonation echoes in my mind. Echoes in my home. Our tongues have the power to cut and hurt or edify, build up, ENCOURAGE.
The one that made me a mom…
I’ve never been so convicted about the power of our words as when I recognize the things I spoke over my children. In infancy, my oldest seemed anxious. He is fiery and passionate. Life was not a rosy glow of motherhood, it was a mess of nerves and feeling like a failure. I sat down to nurse and braced myself for pain and frustration. For 4 weeks, this happened. Then a loving midwife prayed over us and her words lifted the burden of my shoulders.
I LITERALLY felt lighter leaving our first appointment. I began singing, “I’ve got the joy joy joy joy over my boy.”
And sure enough, I felt more joyful. When I saw us grow to trust one another, the scriptures began pouring out of my mouth and TOGETHER we claimed the truths of the Word of God.
Then the wild bunch…
When our family became a foursome, I had an arsenal! As the boys became picky toward each other, I heard “stop! Why are you doing that?! ENOUGH!” My boiling point was low and my words were ineffective. My voice felt powerless.
The powerless become hopeless. But the hopeful, will ALWAYS be full of power. In early 2012 we began using scripture in our day to day. We speak it out so we can live it out. So in that picky brother-ness moment we use…
- “It is good and pleasing to the Lord when brothers dwell together in unity.” (Psalm 113)
- “Buddy, when you honor mommy and daddy, it will go well with you.” (Deuteronomy 5:16).
- We give them opportunities “Boys, when you are generous with that popcorn, I can be generous with you. God says that when you are faithful with little things, you can be trusted with more.” (Luke 16:10)
When our kids know the power in their words can be sharp and hurt or kind and loving. (And let’s be real, we have lots of opportunity to see the sharp and hurting in action with 3 kids 5 and under!)
We get it wrong all the time. But some of the time we get it right. We extend grace because we have grace HEAPED upon us by a good God. We are forgiving because we have been forgiven. Want to be humbled? Rip into your 3 year old because you lost your mind and then in a snap, he forgives you when you ask. MAN, that is the picture of God in your kids. They are quick to forgive. So how could I not extend that to them?!
KNOW the power source. Know the Word of God. Start today. Say it out loud with your kids. Make it a game. Sing it over your infants. Let your voice echo in the ears of your children and have it mean something.
Here is a great place to start…
Deuteronomy 6:4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”
Power In Your Words